We go through this phase many times in our lives. There may be times that we feel so insecure about ourselves and many times over, we give up before even trying. If you’ve ever felt this way, don’t worry too much about it. I’ve been in similar situations too in the past, but a little new knowledge and time work wonders on me. The key to defeating the feelings of worthlessness?

Boost your self esteem!

Like it or not, your level of self-esteem defines your personality. A person with good and pleasant personality is a person who always thinks rationally. Thinking positive is good too, but only to a certain extent. The best you can do to help yourself is by rationalising - get in touch with the inner you. Here’s what you can do boost your self-esteem for a better personality and a more pleasant relationship of any kind:

1. Avoid criticising or insulting yourself when you make mistakes. Admit your mistakes, but rationalise with yourself about the nature of the mistakes. Don’t jump to telling yourselves “I can never do anything right!’” or “That’s it, I’m cursed!” or “I’m just plain stupid”. Instead, tell yourselves something like “I’ll do better next time” or “Maybe I was not careful enough. I’ll be more careful next time” or even “I’m a human too, and it’s normal for us humans to make mistakes at some points in our lives!”.

2. Cope with your problems, don’t ‘mope’ around with your problem. Thinking about problems at hand and not do anything will make it worse. Instead of feeling blue all over because of your problems, remind yourselves that there are other people out there who face more serious, life-threatening problems compared to you.

Keep in mind that the only person who can help us is ourselves. Other people can only help make we feel better, but to overcome it completely is a task we are responsible for. If we love ourselves, we have to start helping ourselves.